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Monday, July 13, 2009

Tangling of the Hair

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Note: If a child comes to stay with you for two days and her mother has just freshly braided her hair in small cornrows, there's no need to take down the braids and redo her hair. Especially if redoing the hair will make it all tangled in the back and hard to comb. This makes more work for the mother, and an unpleasant combing experience for the little girl. The little girl's mother purposely keeps her daughter's hair in African-style braids to avoid such tangling of the hair.

13 comments:

Anonymous said...

Beautifully , Delicately, and Poetically expressed.
Honor the MOTHER'S request!

Alicia Michele Benjamin said...

Thank you. I sure hope and pray that the request will be honored.

Anonymous said...

Anonymous said...
Straight out of Spike Lee's Crooklyn. The mother (played by Alfre Woodard) had put her daughter's (Troy) hair in cornrows with beads and shells and sent her to NC from Brooklyn to stay with an older aunt a few weeks in the summer. The aunt who did not know what to do with the "braids and beads and shells and things" (you do nothing, right, leave it alone!) took them down in order to press and curl the child's hair!

Marilyn

Alicia Michele Benjamin said...

Marilyn,

I can't tell you how much your words mean to me. I had forgotten this scene from "Crooklyn". My child's hair wasn't pressed and curled, but a large portion of it was pulled together and tangled and it broke my heart.

That scene from the movie speaks to me tremendously and says it all.
Many thanks my dear friend.

Alicia

Anonymous said...

Sister,
The next time you anticipate that situation, just annoint your daughter's hair with oil and whisper "The blood of Jesus" as you're doing her hair.
God will take care of that.

Alicia Michele Benjamin said...

Thank you for those powerful and spiritual words. It's very comforting.

sondjata said...

This needs to be said? Wow. I'm a man and even I know that all that needs to be done, if at all, is a nice oiling.

sondjata said...

Which by the way is a nice bonding opportunity.

Alicia Michele Benjamin said...

Sondjata,
Yes, I guess this needs to be said. You're right about the bonding opportunity too. God Bless you brother. Thanks for your words.
Alicia

Alicia Michele Benjamin said...

I repeat, the child's hair was TANGLED and hard to comb and there's no need to REDO freshly braided hair, especially when the redoing causes more work for the mother and discomfort for the child.

Black Married Momma said...

This is funny - and sad. What's wrong with freshly done braids? Is the style being altered to mimic a more Western look?

-Black Married Momma

Alicia Michele Benjamin said...

Black Married Momma,
There's absolutely nothing wrong with freshly done braids. Right?
No, the style wasn't really Westernized, it was just changed and not combed (or thought) through enough.
:-)

Anonymous said...

You are a phoney and your blog is a front for your lack of self-esteem. I understand why you delete the blogs when people don't agree with you and that's bogus. You need a one-sided blog because you can't handle other people's truths. Read this then delete this because you daughter is going to hate you and despise you as she gets older. But believe me a good number of your good old faithful blog readers don't agree with you either. They just pretend they do so you want take Jak away from them too. But, you would rather force a relationship than to have a genuine one. Get over yourself, and you can quote all the scripture you want.....Lucifer knows scripture too. I ain't impressed. What would be impressive if you would do the right thing for once in your miserable little existence. Grow up already.....hell you are old enough!